‘So I made my own post’: Estranged mother-in-law tries to tarnish daughter-in-law's reputation via social media, DIL epically claps back with the support of her husband

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Jan 11, 2024 1:00 AM EST

Marriages are not easy, but they should be filled with love and support. One little thing that tends to rip apart a loving couple during a marriage can be a deranged mother-in-law. What can you do when your mother-in-law, the mother of the person you love and just promised to love for the rest of your life, is bonkers? And we're not talking laugh-it-off bonkers, we're talking mean, entitled, and devious bonkers. Like this MIL who tried to tarnish the reputation of her daughter-in-law by using social media. The MIL was already on-again-off-again estranged, but things went to an entirely different level after the first child was born. The MIL went straight to talking down the DIL on her social media and actually got a lot of attention doing so. This encouraged the DIL to start fighting back, fire with fire. So she too took to her social media to expose the nefarious MIL. Her husband had her back the entire time too. See the entire story below! 

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    AITA for telling my MIL if I she expects me to get a DNA test for my son, then I want her to get a DNA test for my husband?
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    I(30 f)met my husband (Stephen 32) at a friend's 'cousin's party. We instantly connected and started dating not long after. We have been happily married for 5 years now and have a 4 month old son. I met my MIL at his uncle funeral, he asked me to attended in support of him.
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    Before we left, his cousin warned me about MIL, he said she wasn't nicest person, and she had impossibly high standards to meet and can be judgemental, so don't take it personally, as she's like that with everyone. I did ask my husband and he agreed that
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    MIL can be quite judgemental, but not to worry, that he will be there for me. I felt like they gave me the sugar coated version of her because she was terrible. She made a scene about bringing a stranger to a family furneral, but my husband cut her off and said his aunt, who was his uncle's widow said he could. She
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    spent the rest off the furneral giving me nasty looks and making passive aggressive comments. She made a scene at our wedding, but that's a different story on it's own.
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    But after minimal contact with MIL my husband eventually got around to telling her that I was pregnant. I expected her to be angry and have a go at him. But she surprised us both and was the complete opposite. She was excited about being a grandmother.
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    She was congratulating us. Her attitude did a complete turn and I begrudgingly allowed her to visit. When it was time to give birth to my son, she wanted to see my son being born, but I refused. That's when her ugly side reared its head again and she caused a scene and was thrown out. I refused to let her visit us at home, my husband agreed.
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    But she rang crying and apologizing. She said she was just overwhelmed about being a grandmother and her emotions got the better of her. Against my better judgement, I relented and said okay.
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    When she first held him she looked at me and said he was beautiful! I went into the kitchen to get us a drink and then I could hear my husband telling her to get out! I went back in, she started yelling he needed to get baby tested because he doesn't look like anyone in their family. He
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    kicked her out. She took to SM and told everyone that I cheated on my husband and that my husband needs to get a DNA test to prove he was the dad. She got alot of attention for that. So I made
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    my own post and said I'll get a test when she gets test for her son! That just made everything worse! She rang my husband up telling him to take it down. He just hung up on her. Everyone divided and
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    questioned my husband's paternity since she had such a strong reaction to it. Now even my husband is starting to wonder and making me feel I went to far and I'm thinking AITA for saying that?
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    OneFellUnderADay NTA. She doesn't sound stable at all, and I would be worried about what she would do around the child. Even if she was just another weirdly incestuous boy mom, that mood swing, going from one extreme to another, in a blink of an eye, goes beyond shole into dangerous territory. Also, her 12 hr. ago
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    demanding to "see the birth" and immediately taking to social media also indicates she has no concept of boundaries. To have someone like that around your child, even if she doesn't do anything drastic, could be very damaging.
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    Also, if she wants to make her delusions public, she can handle your PUBLIC response. If you don't want a witch hunt, don't make a pyre.
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    jakeofheart 10 hr. ago She sounds like she needs professional help. And I am not s out of spite or to stigmatise mental illness. This is not the behaviour of someone who is mentally stable.
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    _THE_LOC_NAR_ . 12 hr. ago I would enjoy this. She would get gifts from Me, wrapped with bow. Xmas: dna home tests. Birthday: dna home tests. Mother's day: dna home tests.
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    Hell I might just send them to her from Amazon randomly as a pick me up for myself. Be the whirlwind.
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    Electronic_Charge_96. 11 hr. ago edited 7 hr. ago Include a note, that says "normal people would be getting a framed photo of their grandson/anecdotes about his life, but you went this way. Hope it was worth it"
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    VioletLily2 12 hr. ago Partassipant [1] ΝΤΑ Maybe not the nicest way to handle, but when you deal with hit, your hands are bound to get dirty. Keep holding your ground and just tell her to stop spouting lies about you on SM or you will continue to embarrass her on your own account, and she can face the consequences of her own actions.
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    joereddington - 11 hr. ago . Partassipant [2] Also I feel that parents of a newborn get a reasonable amount of leeway even if this wasn't cut and dried. Also also - who looks at a newborn and expects to see a strong family resemblance? I'm looking at the newborn photos of my kids on the wall and that don't even look like the kids they turn into,never mind me...
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    Mybunsareonfire · 11 hr. ago So, while I love the pettiness/one upmanship of this, I disagree about actually doing it. This feels like the perfect time for OP to gently push her husband in the right
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    direction and he'll finally agree. They need to go no contact with MIL. She's never going to change, and she actively makes their lives worse.
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    Aussiealterego 12 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [26] NTA and I am so incredibly proud of you for coming up with that response. What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander - you asked her to do exactly the same thing she was demanding of you. Perfect.
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    Antelope 31 12 hr. ago · edited 12 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [20] Nta. She's deranged. No contact with her ever again, and move on with your drama-free lives enjoying your beautiful new baby. Tell your husband if he really wants a paternity test you'd be happy to provide one and at that point he'll also be paying
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    child support forever while you marry someone else who will actually trust you and not throw away his marriage because of a unstable and manipulative relative. He should be protecting you and your child together from all of this nonsense, and cutting off anyone who participates in it.
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    He should make a simple, very clear post stating that anyone who questions his paternity will not be welcome in his home ever again, full stop. His mother's irrational allegations are disgraceful. You owe none of these people any explanations, arguments or time.
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    Vvvvvhonestopinion Certified Proctologist [20] 12 hr. ago NTA. Even if she apologised, I wouldn't let her near your son or be with him on her own. Ever!! I can bet she will try to sneakily do the test in the future.
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    thatdamnsqrl. 12 hr. ago Nope. No, NTA. Also, super glad that your husband has your back and has been overall, on your side and not swayed by his mom's bs. You married a good one!
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    TheVaneja 12 hr. ago NTA her behaviour is completely unacceptable and I give my full support to the way you handled it. I wouldn't be at all surprised if she did lie about your husband's parentage. The people most likely to suspect nefarious activity do so because they engaged in it themselves.
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